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Accountable to Joy World Needs Hope

Accountable to Joy

January 16, 2018

When you were a child, your folks probably taught you to be accountable (don’t run screaming, it gets good). Pick up after yourself. Take responsibility for your actions. Most of us would consider these universal truths for being good humans.

But who do you hold yourself accountable to now? Your parents, Your Creator, your friends, yourself . . . no one. Perhaps the thought of accountability is way too much adulting for you. It rings of liability and drudgery.

Let’s flip accountability on its tail, so to speak. Embrace this: you are free—in thought, heart and spirit. It’s also a universal truth. So being accountable is less about obligation and more about selection.

Instead of only being accountable for not f’ing up or for keeping your chaos to a respectful minimum . . . what if you select something greater and hold yourself accountable to joy?

You are accountable for smelling the flowers. You are accountable for deep breaths. You are accountable for kind words. You are accountable for love. You are accountable for giving your best to life.

No shackles, no expectations, no annual review. Just make it a priority to be and share joy.

Worthy of Reflection

Worth a Thousand Words

September 17, 2017

Do you feel worthy? Of your blessings, of your life, of love. Worthy of compliments from others. Worthy of feeling confident in your own skin. Worthy of praise for your actions. Worthy of celebration for your personal triumphs. Worthy of happiness.

Worthy is a tricky, funny word that trips many of us up. It begs for recognition . . . but that recognition may not always feel like roses and rays of light. Sometimes our ability to feel worthy is influenced by the world, our hurts, our hangups and our fears. Worthy becomes a distant cause and may seem a far cry from your present existence.

However, worthy is not about looking the best or performing the best. Worthy is about feeling a glimmer of care within yourself. It begins with a deep inkling of hope and grows with patterns of nurture. Worthy is whispering, “I believe in the goodness in me.” and “I feel love washing over me.” and “I am worthy of realizing my dreams.”

I challenge you: speak a 1,000 words of worthiness to yourself. Begin with things like, “I love myself.” and “I am beautiful.” and “I delight in my existence.” and “I rock!”

Worthy is worth daily reflection. Whether it’s tallying your finer points or simply owning the here-and-now you, it takes practice.

When you give into thoughts of what you lack, how you don’t matter or why you don’t deserve something, you devalue yourself. You are worthy. You are remarkable. You are you for a reason.

You are exactly where you need to be but not where you will always remain. You are worthy, my friend. Hear me and repeat this as often as you need to make it real.

Oh, and when you feel stronger, freer and more hopeful . . . pass it on by sharing 1,000 words of worthiness to those around you. Strangers, friends, strange friends. You feel me.

The New New Year

January 6, 2014

With virtually the whole world focused on January 1 and the countdown to a fresh page on the Gregorian calendar, it was intriguing to hear about the “resets” intended in the lifestyles, Facebook profiles and choices of so many. I simply tilted my head at the thought that a day full of hangovers, house cleaning and sports could so influence the psyche of such a broad people. Hmmm.

Perplexed, I tried to get onboard and consider January 1 a fresh start. I attempted to schedule more gym time, let go of past relationships and focus more on wellness-motivated endeavors. Ok, that was so so. Then, I tried January 2 and 3, but meetings, work, laundry, bills and grocery shopping claimed my time. Plus, admittedly, a little sleep to catch up from all of the holiday revelry of the prior two weeks. I considered January 4 but it was the close of the week, a friend’s birthday party and a day of errands. When January 5 came around, I was too exhausted to even think about resetting anything but the channel on Pandora. Well, huh. I meditated and sought inner guidance. The clear answer: January 6 is the beginning of a hopeful new year. Obviously.

It’s about clearing that which does not serve us, disposing of the debris of holiday indulgence (as well as crispy Christmas trees) and remembering what the rhythm of life feels like. Then, I saw this article, “January 6 is most depressing day of year, study says.” Ouch.

Let’s pause for a moment. No offense to the U.K., but their studies are notoriously skewed in a somber direction with such past gems as “Happiness study finds that UK is passing point of peak life satisfaction.” Way to be a bucket full of rainbows, Brits. God love ya.

If you sense sarcasm in my voice, ding ding. Being hopeful doesn’t mean that you have to be sickeningly sweet or unrealistically buoyant. Every breath of every minute of every hour of every day is a chance to reset, my friends.

I persisted. Post meditation and with an open heart, I saw a post from an inspiring Italian friend who shared a story like this: “The night before Epiphany in Italy . . . ” It’s an interesting notion and made me think about how one individual can recognize the goodness in others. Moreover, Wikipedia notes that Befana, “will sweep the floor before she leaves . . . sweeping away . . . problems of the year.” Sweeping away the problems of the year? I love it. That’s a hopeful act, indeed.

So, instead of giving into the mass media hysteria of when you are supposed to be a new you, when you are expected to be depressed and how many ways life is falling short, try sweeping. Sweep away the woes, sweep away the worries, sweep away the relationships that abuse, sweep away the idea that you aren’t worth it, sweep away the obstacles to your hopeful new year.

Much love and abundant hope to Lilli Peter at Quantum Neter for this “epiphany.”