Some of you may remember a show called “Kids Say the Darndest Things,” featuring the unfiltered responses of children to everyday questions. This popped into my head the other day as I was speaking with my nephew about why he shouldn’t run ahead towards streets, traffic and crowded stores. His response, “(giggle) I don’t need hands, I have light up shoes.”
Even as adults, how many times do we take the same approach? I don’t need to exercise, I’m having a diet soda. Or, I don’t need to say excuse me, I was there first. Or, I don’t need help, I have this covered. Well, perhaps that may work for a time and, with the gift of free will, it is up to you. But consider this: have you ever seen what happens to someone who no longer believes they need or have hope?
Now, as an eldest child, recovering perfectionist and do-it-all-myself stubborn lass, I can tell you that “needing” anything is a stretch for some people. However, life has a funny (interesting not haha) way of presenting challenges, losses and changes that test how much we can do alone. I have spoken repeated about surrender and the power of not taking the world on your shoulders, but what is the state of your heart? Have you accepted hope?
I frequently hear how adults believe life moves faster and more frantically as we age. This is a trick of the mind; we are actually just so preoccupied with a routine, with our worries and with the future (or sometimes the past) that we feel overwhelmed and stop noticing the moment-to-moment passage of time. Why do so many kids seem oblivious to time and have “endless summers?” It’s because they are living right now, with an innocent hope for simple things and still willing to lean for their needs.
What guidance can I offer? Simple. Believe that hope is not a fanciful illusion, an off-and-on whimsy or a waste of time. Believe fully that hope offers strength, optimism and peace. Accept that you need hope to navigate this imperfect world and that by sharing a hopeful outlook you can build a rich foundation for hope in your family. In short, embrace hope and accept your need for hope. That’s when the truest and richest change occurs.